An Exercise That Points To Regression--Lesson 30

The previous pages have provided you with real case histories that illustrate the different forms regression and the accompanying rage can take. Look at the following list and find the triggers for your own regression and then use this information to help catch yourself falling into regression.

EXERCISE
On a scale of 1-5, circle the ones that very often trigger a regression; it makes you feel small, little, less than the powerful adult you are or makes you tend to lose it.

SHAMING 1 2 3 4 5
BLAMING 1 2 3 4 5
CRITICIZING 1 2 3 4 5
PREACHING 1 2 3 4 5
TEACHING THAT IS PATRONIZING 1 2 3 4 5
JUDGING 1 2 3 4 5
ANALYZING 1 2 3 4 5
SARCASM 1 2 3 4 5
PUT-DOWNS 1 2 3 4 5
JOKES AT OTHER’S EXPENSE 1 2 3 4 5
SABOTAGE 1 2 3 4 5
CONTROL 1 2 3 4 5
MANIPULATION 1 2 3 4 5
LIES 1 2 3 4 5
GOSSIP 1 2 3 4 5
ONE-UPSMANSHIP 1 2 3 4 5

Now, look at the boxes where you checked 4’s and 5’s. When buttons are pushed, how old do you feel? In other words, if you put a 4 or 5 in Criticism or Sarcasm, what age in your life did these take you back to?

Question: Which of the above do you see as major triggers for regression and possibly rage?

In Lesson 31 you will find another list of possible regressors that can lead to soft rage.


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