Saturday, October 1, 2011

John Lee's new book--The Half-Lived Life: Overcoming Passivity and Rediscovering Your Authentic Self

Dear friends, clients, colleagues and customers: I turn 60 this month and my latest book The Half-Lived Life: Overcoming Passivity and Rediscovering Our Authentic Self is (in my opinion and other’s) the best and most important thing I’ve written since The Flying Boy. I hope and request that you support this unique look at an over-looked pattern and problem that faces millions today.

“Passivity is the compulsion to pursue the opposite of what we say we want.” Excerpt from The Half-Lived Life.

“John Lee mentions that "very little has been written about passivity in men." Men are always assumed to be hard-drivers, but they live out their passivity in a disguised way. This book will help both men and women see that.” -Robert Bly poet and author of Iron John

“Take advantage of John Lee’s wisdom, wit and wonderful ways to truly transform your life. If anyone can create a path of transformation for your life, John Lee can and will in this book. He has lived the pages and now passes the personal power on to you.” --Pat Love, co-author, Never Be Lonely Again: The Way

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Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Now You Tell Me

What makes you angry? Every time someone does, doesn't do, says, doesn't say?? You always get angry. How do you deal with your anger? What do you do when it slips over into rage? Anything you can tell me about anger will help me to help others so I'm listening.

What were you taught about anger when you were growing up?

Who was allowed to show anger in your home?

Thanks so much for answering these questions. There are now over 80 posts on this blog dealing with anger. I hope they help.

Beginning in Sept. my 1-3 day intensives will be available in Austin, Tx. as well as Mentone, AL. I appreciate your support.

Monday, June 20, 2011

How To Tell The Difference

There are a number of ways to tell the differences between rage and anger:

•Rage takes a long time to express—hours, days, weeks, months, years and lifetimes.
•Anger expressed appropriately takes minutes at the most.
•Rage is never resolved in a short conversation.
•Anger is done in a sentence or two, maybe even three or four.
•Rage consists of paragraphs, pages, volumes and epics.
•With rage there is no relief when expressed.
•Anger expressed relaxes us and sometimes even the other person because now they feel safer with us because they know how we feel.
•Rage always equals distance, disaster, and divorce.

Which do you do? There are now over 80 lessons on anger management in this blog. I hope they help.

Beginning in Sept. 1-3 Day intensives will be available in Austin, Tx. as well as Mentone, AL.

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Codependency, Resentment and Anger II

A codependent is forever relying on external sources to make and keep them happy. If they have enough money they’re happy and if they don’t they’re unable to be calm and at peace. If their children are happy then they are happy. If their wife or husband is doing well then they feel they are doing well. If momma is happy or daddy is happy then everyone in the family is temporarily comfortable, and secure.
There is little or no ability in a codependent to internally create peace of mind, serenity, self-esteem, and self-worth as we focus on others and in the process look damn good and burned out.

There are more than 75 lessons on anger management in this blog. I hope they help.


Friday, June 17, 2011

Codpendency Continues To Increase Anger

Codependency is an unfair, uneven exchange of energy. The Codependent gives and gives and gets little if anything. The Codependent enters a room feeling good, happy, and full of energy only to see someone sad, tired and lonely. The classic codependent leaves feeling sad, tired, and lonely but satisfied that the other person feels much better than before they came. Codependency is the way people numb their own feelings.

There are over 75 lessons on anger management in this blog. I hope they help.


Thursday, June 16, 2011

Codependency, Resentment and Anger

Codependency has become a familiar term these days. You here it mentioned in sit-coms. But while it is familiar it’s still very misunderstood and still one of the leading causes of divorce, misunderstandings, pain and relationship problems at home and work in part because the codependent person is often resentful and thus very angry.
So what is codependency anyhow? Codependency is an immersion and pre-occupation with everybody’s business but our own. It is making sure everyone’s needs are taken care of while neglecting our own needs.

Tomorrow I will define this common complaint more thoroughly.

There are now over 75 posts regarding anger, rage, and much more in this blog. I hope they help.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Staying True To Ourselves Decreases Anger

Good boundaries and limits actually increase intimacy, clarity, communication, and vulnerability because you can say “no” when you need to. You can also say “yes” when you want to. You know where you stand and let others know more about you. It enhances other people’s feelings of safety and trust because they can rely on you when you say: “no more,” “enough,” “stop,” or, “its okay, you can come closer. When we don’t compromise our boundaries and limits no matter what someone may think and stay true to ourselves, everyone involved wins in the long run of any relationship but if we don’t we can end up becoming very Codependent which seriously undermines any attempt or effort we make to become more emotionally intelligent people.