Soft Rage--Lesson 6 From Anger Solution

WORDS USED BY THE "Soft" RAGING PERSON:
•You always _______
•You never ________
•Why can’t you just _______
•If only you __________
•It’s all your fault
•Shame on you
•You’re lying
•When are you going to ________

SOFT RAGE
We’re not talking about road rage or domestic violence. This isn’t putting your fist through a plate glass window either. No, the kind of rage is being discussed is what I call “Soft Rage.” Soft Rage is the kind of rage that has been called anger and that most people have seen, received or perpetrated all of their lives. It is usually not intentional or malicious. It is the rage that is done more out of habit than to really harm. The forms of rage that will be discussed are complicated and I am going to make it as simple as possible. What you will see however is there is nothing “soft” about any of these.
Given so few people have ever seen or heard anger expressed appropriately, they go with what they have seen and heard a million times since childhood. Because rage is the norm, men and women have unintentionally cast themselves as both victims and perpetrators.

HOW TO IDENTIFY “SOFT RAGE”
Is your tone…?
•Patronizing
•Condescending
•“Holier Than Thou”
•Rude
•Sarcastic

Question: After reading this blog post do you recognize anyone at all?

In Lesson 7 We will further explore the concept of "soft rage" and in the process will learn more about "appropriate" anger which is one of the goals of this blog.

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