A FEW MORE EXAMPLES OF SOFT RAGE--LESSON 15

MORE EXAMPLES OF SOFT RAGE:

• Sarcasm
• Put-Downs
• One-upsmanship
• Sabotage
• Jokes-(The kind of jokes where someone is the “butt” and they are not laughing even though everyone in the room may think it is funny. If it is a funny joke everyone laughs. If you have to add at the end of a joke that it is a “joke” then it probably isn’t.
• Manipulation
• Control
• Lies
• Gossip
All five of the above behaviors and actions are serious, so serious that I have tried to add a touch of levity here and there to hopefully reduce the pain of recognizing how many times they have been done to you and you have done them to the ones you love.

All five result in distance, disaster and very often divorce. All five must be eliminated from our conversations and confrontations.
I presented these five things to a group of social workers last week in a seminar on expressing anger appropriately. A man in his early forties raised his hand and with a slight whimsical tone asked, “If you take away these things what in the world am I going to say? I say this stuff almost every day.”

Question: Which of the above ways do you or someone you know tend to employ?

In Lesson 16 we will explore the 4 STYLES OF SOFT RAGE many people use when trying to express anger.

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