Teaching is one of the more subtle forms of rage because on the surface it appears to be really helpful. But if you go beneath the surface you’ll often find condescension, patronization, and belittling.
Teachers read self-help books with a trusty pink or yellow highlighter at the ready to underscore all the passages that pertain to their husband/student, girlfriend/student, and parent/student. Then they might leave the book open to the most pertinent page in the most inconspicuous places like say the bathroom sink or the other person’s pillow.
Their student upon finding it might cry out, “Honey, did you want me to read this book lying in the sink marked with pink and yellow highlighter with my name in the margins?” Another important thing to note: When the frustrated or self-appointed preacher or teacher is engaged in these subtle forms of rage it may not have anything to do with what you have said or done. These are merely ways “to let off steam” or let rage leak out that has been inside the speaker for days, weeks or decades.
Question: Have you or someone you know spoken to other adults like they were students who "needed to be a taught a lesson?"
In Lesson 12 we will explore the "Judging" as a form of soft rage.
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