"I can't believe you would do such a thing," which is rage code for "shame on you." Blaming--"If you had gotten into therapy when I first asked you to we wouldn't be in this mess." Shaming and blaming statements are two of the behaviors that "soft rage" can take but really there is nothing "soft" about them.
Who used "shame on you" on you? When did you blame someone for your feelings?
In this blog there are 51 lessons on anger and anger management. Thanks for your support. In tomorrow's blog post I will present two more methods people tend to employ when they "think" they are telling someone how they feel. Be well.
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