In Lesson 38 we will explore another Pre-condition for regression, anger and rage--STRESS

STRESS
Stress increases distress. When people are distressed they get tense. Tension leads to contraction of body, mind and soul. When people are stressed and in distress you can give them suggestions, advice, feedback, counseling, books to read, counselors to see, and none of it is taken in. All roll right of the stressed, regressed person like water off a duck’s back and they often even feel offended and let you know it in no uncertain terms by raging .
Not much that comes out of the stressed, distressed individual makes much sense. It usually lacks coherency, and continuity; conversations are convoluted and confusing at best.
Now for the bad news—as if the above wasn’t bad enough—when we hear the word stress we immediately think—Welcome to the American workplace where stress has become the norm. Americans are working harder and longer and with less vacation time than ever. Cost of living rises while jobs are scarce and salaries decline. Work is outsourced to other countries. The average American worker is scared, exhausted, disconnected and regressed.
The other negative quote we hear in our heads about stress is, “Welcome to the average American home.” Both parents are working, trying to make ends meet. Children have less supervision and interaction with parents, particularly the father. Studies show on average fathers spend less than two hours per week with their children. More and more children are being raised in one parent homes. In much of the western world divorce occurs in one out of two marriages. All of these factors come together and you have stress, distress and more and more regression, more and more unabated rage.

Question: When you get stressed do you feel like curling up under the covers and wishing that the world would go away and when it doesn't do you get angry and sometimes rage?

In Lesson 39 We will explore pressure to perform as a regressor and rage producer.

For more information go to johnleebooks.com and read The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Attaining Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships, Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately, The Missing Peace--all available on Amazon.com.

Flight Attendant-Steven Slater's Rage & Why People Are Rallying Around Him

Because so many people are talking about the flight attendant who flew off the handle, I decided to address this in today's blog instead of Lesson 9 which I will get back to tomorrow.

Look at the man's face: Pain, despair , frustration, and tension. Is he angry? No. He is way past angry. Remember anger is a feeling. It is an emotion. What he expressed in the way he spoke to the passenger, then grabbing beers, then opening the plane and extending the slide are "actions and behaviors" that numb feelings of pain, despair, frustration, etc.

Now to answer the question why are so many thousands and thousands of people posting praising comments of his behavior and actions:

Because lots of people are full of rage and raging feels temporarily empowering, but here’s the rub: it is only an illusion. Actually rage weakens the rager and the person who takes the brunt of the rage.

Rage has moved more people out of relationships than U-Haul. It shoves everyone out the door, out of lives, or out of business. Rage pushes everyone away because no one wants to be around it and yet people are drawn to at the same time because rage is contagious like the flu. It can spread through families, corporations, countries.

Rage basically says —in no uncertain terms— I do not value you or this relationship enough to warrant an expenditure of my time or energy to try to achieve resolution.

Rage says you have a problem and that’s the problem—no solution in sight. Many people like Steven Slater have become frustrated at work, full of tension and stress wondering if they will keep their job and then there are those who hate their jobs and that breeds another kind of dissatisfaction that ends up in all kinds of raging behaviors and actions.

Is Steven Slater a working man’s hero? No. He is a very distressed fellow who needs lots of attention, empathy and a lot anger management.

Question: Have you ever wanted to open the door and slide out of a job like Slater has done? If the answer is yes you probably won't get the media attention he has.

For more information go to johnleebooks.com and read The Anger Solution: The Proven Method for Attaining Calm and Developing Healthy, Long-Lasting Relationships, Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately, The Missing Peace--all available on Amazon.com.