The Interrogator, Intimidator and Poor Me

"What time did I tell you to be home?" "How many more times do we have to discuss this?" "Who were you with?" "How much did you have to drink?" The interrogator fires off a rapid series of questions. They have a way to make you talk.

The Intimidator gets big and loud and fills up the whole room so everyone in it will get small and quiet or they fill up the office or room with silence so thick you can cut it with a knife.

The Poor Me says, "It is not my fault I am late for the meeting. I got a phone call just as I was getting ready to leave and they just kept talking and talking. Don't blame me, blame them."

All three are forms that rage takes. Which one do you gravitate to?

There are 51 other lessons on this blog. I hope they help.

Interrogating as One Style of Soft Rage--Lesson 16

There are four predominant styles of soft rage. All four are frequently used, but some people gravitate more to one or two styles. The first one we will explore is:

The Interrogator is the rager who has ways to make you talk.
“What time did I tell you to be home?” “Who were you with?” “How many times have we had this conversation?” “How much did you have to drink?” “What is your excuse?” “How many times have I told you?” “When are you going to visit?” “Why don’t you ever call?”

The interrogator employs a rapid series of questions to control, manipulate, shame, judge, etc. leaving everyone exhausted and willing to sign any confession just to get out of the cold cement room, with one dim light bulb and a one-way mirror.

Question: Do you know anyone like this?

In Lesson 17 we will look at those who tend to gravitate "The Intimidation".

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