Codependency, Resentment and Anger II

A codependent is forever relying on external sources to make and keep them happy. If they have enough money they’re happy and if they don’t they’re unable to be calm and at peace. If their children are happy then they are happy. If their wife or husband is doing well then they feel they are doing well. If momma is happy or daddy is happy then everyone in the family is temporarily comfortable, and secure.
There is little or no ability in a codependent to internally create peace of mind, serenity, self-esteem, and self-worth as we focus on others and in the process look damn good and burned out.

There are more than 75 lessons on anger management in this blog. I hope they help.

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Knowing Your Limits Reduces Anger and Rage

PURPOSES OF LIMITS
Limits not only help us establish the difference between caring for and care-taking, they separate quantity from quality. Caring for and staying within one's limits leaves us feeling like there has been a compassionate exchange of time, energy, respect, and love. Care-taking very often leaves us drained, exhausted and resentful because we went way past our limits.
Here are a few more examples of less dramatic ways to thinks about limits:
•I’ll only be able to go one more week.
•I’ll explain this two more times.
•I can talk about his for thirty minutes.
•I’ll give my boss one month to respond to my request.