Boundary Violations and Anger

A boundary violation is when someone knows that Jennifer doesn’t like to be teased about her hair and they do it anyway. Being told that the volume is too loud and then they persist—violation. Having been told someone doesn’t like to be hugged by strangers and the person keeps pushing to do so—violation. Of course there are much more serious violations than the above examples, but you get the picture.
How do you know when a boundary violation has taken place until you are really familiar and comfortable with yours and other’s boundaries? One answer is you will be a little or a lot angry. Good boundaries reduces anger and rage.

There are over 50 lessons on Anger Management and much more in this blog. I hope it helps.

Building Boundaries & Tearing Down Walls

As I said in yesterday's post. Good boundaries can reduce anger and rage.
First, a boundary is not a wall. Walls are put in place by people who cannot establish boundaries or do not know how to establish boundaries. We can tell the difference between a boundary and a wall by looking at our family and friends to see if they have flat heads from banging them against our walls or calluses on their hands from trying to tear them down. Many of us know more about wall construction than boundary building.
Boundaries help us to separate our thoughts and feelings from those of other people—including, but not limited to—our parents, children, spouses, or friends. Boundaries help us figure out who we are and who we aren’t. They show us where we begin and end and where someone else begins and ends, by establishing the appropriate psychological, emotional, and physical space between us.

There are over 50 lessons on anger management in this blog. I hope they help.

Boundaries Reduce Anger

Good boundaries can reduce anger and rage by 50-80 percent. Boundaries are lines that you draw in the sand, on the carpet, in the air, in your soul, in your body and in life in general. These are lines that others can’t cross without consequences and repercussions. A boundary is not imaginary, though you may not be able to see it. It says, “This is how close you can come to me—physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, sexually and verbally.”

Are your boundaries intact?

There are 51 lessons on anger management in this blog. I hope they help.